Today at work H. “came out” to me. I was totally shocked, I mean, it blew me away. Now that I know I can’t figure how I wouldn’t of known, it shouldn’t be surprising. I can’t for the life of me now remember how she referred to her significant other. She obviously didn’t refer to her SO by name nor did she ever imply she had a husband, I just assumed. I knew they were raising their son together and took turns staying home with him when he was sick. She had to refer to her as something otherwise how did she tell me that he/she was having issues at their job and may get a new one. I can not recall now.
We were driving back from the annual work picnic today when I asked her how long she has been married. She said it is a long story. I am thinking huh, how can the answer to how long be a long story. Then she started saying that I seem to be open minded. Now I am thinking what the heck is she about to tell me. Then she said, I am a lesbian. Knowing this about her seems so obvious now and a lot of things about her make sense now. It of course doesn’t change anything, it just makes me wonder why it took me by surprise like it did.
Oh and back to the original question. They have been together 15 years.