I am trying to explain to RAW why his sucky defeatist attitude isn’t the way to go and I can’t. So out of frustration I leave the room and turn on the music loud (I guess that is the teenager in me if I have one left in me that is).
My approach to a problem is to research it and figure out a way to fix it. His is to wallow in self pity and whine that it is going to be horrible like this forever, whats the use.
I can’t deal with that attitude and I can’t articulate to him short of saying don’t be so negative. It is too ingrained in him.
Sure, he wants to know how to do that but that is where I am stuck, it is a state of mind. I have it and he doesn’t. Anything I would suggest, he won’t give a chance–automatically discounting how dumb it is. And God forbid they don’t work, I will never hear the end of it. He is so not open minded about a lot of things.
As you can see here, I can’t even articulate what is going on here in writing either. Instead of wallowing in that fact, I am now going to see what I can do to improve this part of me. And I will probably research/figure out a way for him to change his attitude and show him that with a better mind set, things can be better even when they aren’t.
Yes, shit happens, but it is how you deal with it that matters. That reminds me of an article I think I read a few months ago. I need find that and print it out to mister close minded, to see if I can chisel that in this thick skull. I am now off to figure out what that was that I read.
I feel better, still can’t articulate worth a shit but feel more in control of my destiny. I can’t change him but I can change how I deal with his attitude. Thanks for listening.